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Every Friday I put together the things that have actually had my attention this week. One book, three articles, a podcast, a track on repeat, and a show or movie. No filler. No recommendations I haven't actually consumed. Just the stuff I'm genuinely in the middle of and think is worth your time.
Some of these connect to the March theme, the Operator's Playbook, and some are just things that landed for me this week independent of any agenda. I'll call out the connections where they exist and won't force them where they don't.
Let's get into it.
THE BOOK
Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz
This is one I read at least once a year (it is that good). This re-read is really helping and needed in this specific season of rebuilding to receive it the way it was meant to land.
Maxwell Maltz was a plastic surgeon who noticed something that bothered him professionally: he could perform a technically successful operation, objectively improve a patient's appearance, and watch them walk away still feeling the same way about themselves. The external change didn't move the internal dial. That observation became the seed of a book that has quietly shaped the thinking of everyone from athletes to executives to therapists for over six decades, even if most of the people it influenced don't know the source.
The central argument is this: your behavior, your performance, your results are not primarily driven by your intentions or your willpower. They are driven by your self-image, the internal picture you hold of who you are and what you're capable of. The self-image acts like a thermostat. It has a set point. And no matter how hard you push in a direction inconsistent with that set point, the system pulls you back. The entrepreneur who keeps self-sabotaging right before a breakthrough isn't weak-willed. Their self-image hasn't been updated to match the version of themselves required for the next level. The behavior is perfectly rational from the inside.
What Maltz then does, and this is where the book earns its longevity, is give you a concrete method for actually updating the self-image. Not through affirmations or positive thinking, which he explicitly dismisses as insufficient. Through a specific mental rehearsal practice that engages the same neurological machinery as real experience. The brain, he argues, does not reliably distinguish between a vividly imagined experience and a real one. Which means you can begin changing the self-image before the external circumstances change, rather than waiting for circumstances to change and hoping the self-image follows.
I've been sitting with the identity debt framework for a while now, the gap between who you are today and who the next version of your business requires you to be. Psycho-Cybernetics is essentially a manual for closing that gap from the inside. It's older than most of what's on the shelf, but it is considerably more useful than most of what's on the shelf. Start from chapter one and don't skip the first two.
Get it: Psycho-Cybernetics on Amazon
THE ARTICLES
Article 1: The Productivity Paradox. Why Doing Less Is Often More
This piece has been floating around my reading list for months and I finally sat down with it this week. The core argument is one I've been building toward through the Operator's Playbook lens but hadn't seen articulated quite this cleanly: most productivity frameworks are designed to help you do more things faster, when the actual leverage comes from doing dramatically fewer things, but doing them with your full attention and capability.
The author draws on research from Cal Newport among others and makes the case that knowledge workers significantly overestimate the value of their total output and underestimate the value of their best output. The email that gets you to 95% inbox zero is worth almost nothing. The piece of work that only you could produce, delivered with your full focus and genuine thought. That's what actually builds a reputation, moves a business, or changes someone's mind. But because the shallow work is always present and always urgent, it crowds out the deep work that actually matters.
For me, the takeaway is structural: protect the best hours for the best work. Not the hours left over after everything else is handled, but the peak hours, the ones where your brain actually fires at the level the important work requires. If that means email and Slack get answered between noon and two instead of first thing in the morning, that's the trade worth making.
Worth reading if you feel like you're always productive but not always making progress.
Read it: Cal Newport | Deep Work
Article 2: What Actually Changes When You Start Using AI Seriously
I've read a lot of AI productivity pieces in the last eighteen months and most of them are variations on the same theme: here are fifteen prompts that will save you time. This one was different. It's based on firsthand accounts from founders and operators who have been using AI tools daily for over a year, and the honest assessment of what actually shifted.
The consensus from the people interviewed: the initial time savings are real but modest. The deeper shift comes from using AI as a thinking partner rather than a task executor. The founders who saw the most change weren't using AI to replace their work. They were using it to clarify their thinking, stress-test their assumptions, and explore options they wouldn't have considered on their own. One of them described it as having a tireless devil's advocate available at all times.
That's the framing I operate with: I create AI critiques, I refine. I use Galaxy.ai as my primary workspace because it lets me access multiple models in one place and route different types of problems to the model best suited for them. The ability to do that without juggling five separate subscriptions has been genuinely useful.
The article also makes an important point about the learning curve: the operators getting the most out of AI tools are the ones who have invested real time in learning how to work with them. That skill gap is widening between people who are actively learning and people who are still on the sidelines.
Read it: Lenny's Newsletter
Article 3: The Science of Context Switching and What It's Costing You
This one is from research out of UC Irvine and it keeps getting cited because the central finding is impossible to shake once you've heard it: after an interruption, the average knowledge worker takes twenty-three minutes to fully regain their focus. Not a few minutes. Twenty-three.
Think about what that means in practice. If you're fielding a dozen interruptions in a workday, you're not just losing the time of those interruptions. You're losing the twenty-three-minute recovery window after each one. A lot of people are spending most of their working hours in a state of perpetual partial attention, never fully distracted, but also never fully focused. In the expensive middle ground where work gets done but not well.
The researchers found that people who batched their interruptions didn't just recover lost focus time. They also reported lower stress, higher output quality, and a greater sense of accomplishment at the end of the day.
I track my actual deep work versus distracted time each week using Rize.io. When your own screen time tells you that you spent thirty minutes in deep focus on a day that felt like eight hours of hard work, that's information you can't ignore.
THE PODCAST
How I Built This with Guy Raz: Tender Greens
I've been working through older How I Built This episodes this week, specifically ones where the founders built something methodical rather than something explosive. The Tender Greens episode with Erik Oberholtzer, David Dressler, and Matt Lyman is one I keep coming back to.
These three built a restaurant group from a single location in 2006 to over thirty units, largely without outside investors for the majority of their run. Guy Raz does his best work in this kind of interview. He keeps pulling on the thread of how rather than what, and what comes out is a story about operators who had genuine conviction in what they were building and refused to let the pressure to scale faster compromise the thing that made it work.
There's a section of the episode where they talk about turning down venture capital early on because they understood what accepting it would require them to become: faster, more aggressive, less thoughtful about culture and quality. That kind of clarity about what you're building, and equal clarity about what you're not willing to trade for growth, is rare to hear discussed openly.
The episode also covers how they handled the operational reality of multi-location growth: systems, training, maintaining consistency without becoming so systematized that the original appeal disappears. There's a lot in there for anyone building a service business at any scale.
Worth an hour on a drive or a long walk.
Listen: How I Built This | Spotify
THE TRACK ON REPEAT
Stand By Me (Live at the Print Shop) by Stephen Wilson Jr.
I came across this version of Stand By Me on a late-night scroll earlier this week and it stopped me cold. I've heard this song hundreds of times in its various forms. I was not prepared for what Stephen Wilson Jr. does with it.
Wilson is a Nashville-based singer-songwriter who operates mostly below the mainstream radar, which is a genuine shame because what he does with his voice and a guitar in a room is the kind of thing that reminds you why live music exists. This specific performance, recorded at the Print Shop, is raw in the best possible way. No production sheen, no studio polish, just someone fully inhabiting a song that has been sung ten thousand times before and making it feel like the first time.
The performance has this quality I've been trying to put words to all week. There's a stillness to it that is not passive. It's the stillness of someone who has complete control and is choosing not to use all of it. Which is its own kind of confidence. The restraint is the statement.
I've played it probably a dozen times since finding it. Once during a late work session when things felt heavy. Once in the morning before a client call I was apprehensive about. It does something to the room that I can't fully explain and won't try to. Some things are better experienced than analyzed. This is one of them.
THE SHOW
Shrinking on Apple TV
I'm late to this one and I'm annoyed about it. Shrinking has been sitting in my watch queue since it dropped and it took me until this week to actually sit down with it. By episode three I was fully locked in.
The premise: a therapist played by Jason Segel is grieving the death of his wife, is struggling to function, and decides to start ignoring his professional training and just telling his clients the blunt, unfiltered truth about what he thinks they should do. Which predictably creates chaos, but in the way that only happens when someone is accidentally doing the right thing the wrong way.
What makes the show genuinely good rather than just a decent premise is the emotional honesty underneath the comedy. It doesn't use humor to avoid the hard stuff. It uses humor to create enough space to actually look at the hard stuff directly. The grief is real. The loneliness is real. The slow, uneven process of becoming a functional person again after a major loss is rendered with a specificity and tenderness that lands harder than you expect from something that is also frequently very funny.
Harrison Ford is in this, playing a grumpy older therapist who reluctantly befriends Segel's character, and he is quietly excellent in a way that suggests he has been waiting for a role this good for a while. The whole cast is strong. The writing is sharp without being clever for its own sake.
It also does something I genuinely appreciate, which is model what it actually looks like to ask for help and let people in. Not as a lesson, not as a message, just as a thing that happens naturally in the story. That's harder to write than it sounds and they pull it off. Two seasons available. Clear your Saturday night.
Stream on: Shrinking | Apple TV
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